Marriage traditions in Kohat district of KPK Pakistan

Marriages are the happiest occasions in Kohat where men, women and children get together and eat, drink and dance, while invited by the families of bride and groom. Marriage contract (Nikah) ceremony is most often held on first day of marriage, a religious entity known as Maulana Sahib, Nikah registrar of Municipal committee Kohat and elders of the city invited by family of bride and groom appears on the marriage scene at the residence of bride, along with groom and his family elders and friends, Maulana Sahib recites the verses of Quran, Nikah Registrar fills the form and mentions the agreed amount of money which the bride is bound to give as Haq Mehar to his bride, and volume of property which the groom transfers in the name of bride as a part of Haq Mehar (the brides right). Then the filled form is presented before the groom for signatures, which also contains written paragraph regarding his consent to the marriage.

Then the same marriage contract form is given to the bride for her consent and signatures by an elderly person nominated as her father (Dham Pue), the newly appointed father an elderly person enters in brides home where most often the bride is sitting with her mother, aunts, cousins and other invited girl friends, while sitting in a corner of her room for three to six days she waits for this occasion to sign her marriage contract, this sitting and waiting practice of bride is called (Mayoon). At this occasion the brides wears yellow color Shalwar Qamees, the newly appointed father of her takes her consent the bride three times accepts the groom as her husband shy bride nod her three times as mark of her consent, the new father of bride comes out and tells Maulana and Nikah registrar that the bride has signed the marriage contract and have given her verbal consent too. Mostly men invitees sit in the near mosque at occasion of Nikah if bride owns big house then they sit in a separate portion, which can be a drawing room or lawn. After the signature of marriage contract, Maulana recites the verses of holy Quran again and finally family members of bride and groom embrace the groom, friends and cousins also embrace the groom and garlands him with garlands made of currency notes and flowers. The family of groom distributes sweets among invitees, and the Nikah ceremony ends on this point.

Even after the signatures on marriage contract the bride stays in her real father’s home for two more days, the second day in the evening family of the bride arranges dinner for the family and invited family friends and other relatives, late in the evening women and children of groom’s family arrive for dinner along with groom and his cousins and friends, the groom and one of his close friend or cousin are invited inside the bride’s home the sister of the bride paste Mehandi on small finger of groom and another person sitting with groom to assisst him, and finally bride and groom are placed on a stage filled with flowers, and both are covered with sheet of precious cloth called Kumkhwab, then an elderly lady sews the clothes of bride and groom together so both become attached to each(this practice is called tuk in local language) other then makes them sit and stand for few times, during this Mehandi ceremony music and dance continues and women folk shower currency notes on dancing members of the family and other invitees. For Mehandi functions drum beater Chinko was favorite for playing music on drum known as dhole, with his demise now Mehandi functions in Kohat is captured by computer, which spreads music at this occasion.

Late in the evening Mehandi dinner and dance function ends, the third day of marriage is the day of departure for bride she sits in nicely decorated car along with groom and his female family members and in big procession of cars of his friends and relatives groom brings the bride to his home, in olden times bride was placed in a dooli ‘a cart like structure carried over the shoulders of men employed for this purpose or by male family members of the groom’.

The fourth day of marriage ceremony is walima lunch thrown by bride to his family and family friends and other people known to him or his family, and after the walima lunch guests invited from distant places and placed in homes and guesthouses starts departing. The marriage ceremony completely ends accomplished on this point.

Written by

Abdur Raziq

M.phil US Study (International Relation-History)

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Note: I have written the above article upon advice of Madam Betty Susan of Australia.